highland.heather

 
joined: 2014-04-09
COMES A TIME WHEN EVERYONE HAS TO MOVE ON FROM THE CONPLACENT TO THE UNKNOWN.
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OVER THINKING

     I have been accused on more then one occasion of over thinking things.   I guess I do think things to death sometimes.   The way my mind works everything does not fully process the first time I think about it and I need to go back and rethink it sometimes several times to fully understand everything.   Even then there may be some things that in the words of one of my favorite sifi characters  does not compute.

     I have come upon one of those does not compute things recently, and I have been running it through my head over and over.   I do not understand how one person can be condemned for something they put on a website, and another be basically given a free pass for putting something more damaging on the same site.   If it is wrong for one person to post something unkind on a site should it not also be wrong for someone else to post something unkind on the same site even if the second person did not reach as many people as the first.   Both things happened on the same site  regardless of the amount of people that actually saw either one.

     While I am over thinking things lets jump to another subject.   If someone provokes another to do something wrong either by pear pressure or bullying or just pushing till the second person can not take it anymore and pushes back, should not BOTH be to blame for what happens next.   The first for in sighting  it to happen and the second for allowing their emotions to get the better of them to the point they do something they knew they should not.

     Lets jump to another subject:   Lets talk about face book.   I do not have one.   I have seen this thing break up too many friendships.   I have come to the conclusion that the reason it causes so much anger, resentment, envy, jealousy, paranoia, and rejection  is that NO ONE ACTUALLY TALKS TO ANYONE ANYMORE AND EVERYONE IS TOO QUICK TO ASSUME WHAT SOMEONE ELSE MEANT WHEN THEY WROTE SOMETHING.   There is an old saying if the shoe fits ware it and if it pinches holler.     For any of you who do not speak folk sayings let me explain the meaning to you.   It means if someone says something AND DID NOT SAY A NAME but you thought it was about you THE SHOE FIT, and if you were offended by what was said even though  NOONE SAID IT WAS ABOUT YOU  THE SHOE PINCHED, because you saw yourself in the statement.   Most people at the point of the shoe pinching will get all mad and want to fight with the person that said it EVEN THOUGH it may not have even been about them in the first place.   When the person that said it tries to tell the one that jumped to the wrong conclusion that it was not about them, the one that did the conclusion jumping will think they are lying to them EVEN IF THEY ARE NOT.   How simple would it be to just ask the speaker who are you talking about and then IF they do say you ask then why they said it.   What many people do not realize EVEN IF someone does say something mean about friend 9 times out of 10 it is because the friend had annoyed them and they were just venting some anger then did not really mean what they said.     I have a friend she got mad because another friend told her she was two faced.   The funny part about this is SHE IS.   She has no problem talking about people behind their backs and being really nice to their face.   The thing is most of us are a little two faced as you may be able to tell from what I just said.   I did not tell my friend WELL YOU ARE when the other friend told her she was two faced she was upset and I did not want to hurt her more.   Not telling her then and putting it in this blog does in fact make me a little two faced too.   Someone has to make me really mad before I will hurt their feelings intentionally.   I have done that only 1 time, but it was something I had to do and a long story.

     Did I mention that I not only over think things but from time to time my brain will switch tracks suddenly and without warning or reason that anyone can see but me.   I remember talking to my favorite nephew one time and right in the middle of the conversation he said something that reminded me of something I needed to tell him.   I stopped him and said oooooooo that reminds me I needed to tell you this, and I told him the thing I remembered.   He looked at me with a puzzled look on his face and said how did what I just said remind you of that?   So I recounted the steps for him the thoughts had taken to make the bridge there were about 8 jumps from what he said to the thing I remembered each jump reminded me of the next.   When I finished telling him, and he saw there was a bridge in my head from the one to the other he said I am sorry I asked.   I laughed at him and told him my brain did that all in a split second, but there was a connection.   He went on with what he was saying a little more confused I am thinking. lol   Just like that day each of these things I have mentioned have a connection but you would need to be inside my head to see it.