Something happened today that made me think of my Aunt Gin. I rarely think of her as she died many years ago, and she and I did not get along well anyhow. She used to say her one daughter could cut you to pieces without even raising her voice. She meant that her daughter would emotionally cut you up, not that she physically even touched the one at which she was aiming.
I am not sure if people know or even realize how their words may affect others, but some people can devastate others with only a word or 2, especially if what they say is not the truth. It hurts to have someone think something about you that is not true, especially if you care about the person speaking the words.
Sometimes the words are spoken in anger, but more often then not they are spoken out of frustration. Unfortunate words spoken in frustration can sometimes feel like words spoken in anger to another person. I was trying to help my brother format a some tablets recently. I was already stressed when he and his wife arrived unexpected. I was trying to hook one of the tablets to my computer. The cord did not fit. My brother said the end is tapered and did I turn the taper the right way. I answered him yea I had. Couple seconds later he asked the same question again. I was getting frustrated and I snapped at him YES I DONE TOLD YOU YES I HAD IT RIGHT. He got really quiet and I realized I hurt his feelings. I said look I am sorry if I hurt your feelings but I had already answered that question. He said well I did not hear it. In retrospect I think my brother is losing his hearing, as this is not the first time he has said he could not hear me. It is a bit ironic though as most people think I speak too loud lol.
Just little things we say to someone when we are frustrated can hurt them deeply. I have also found if I am in pain i get cranky myself and it does not take much to either make me angry or to hurt my feelings. Too bad we can not see the effects of what we are about to do before we actually do it.

It fascinates me how little changes in the world. I realize all of you believe you're the answer, that none of us before you have ever seen the bad in our little world -- but we did.

My favorite author, and a towering intellect, Doris Lessing, wrote about all of the issues you think no one's noticed yet - and she was born in 1919. I challenge any of you to read all of her writings and maintain your beliefs. She rode the socialism/communism train almost from its inception, and came to see the emptiness of its promises (see The Sweetest Dream). She fought for rights for blacks growing up in what was then called Rhodesia (try the "Children of Violence" series), and was bitterly disappointed in its achievements, as much of Africa traded white dictatorship for black dictatorship, and nothing improved for anyone but the elected few (sound familiar?).

My favorite Lessing work, Canopus in Argos: Archives, posed a great question for all of us to consider on this front. The book ends with a huge meeting of youth from around the globe to put whites on trial -- all whites. Various groups of the youth charged whites with all of the historical crimes of the world. The youth had its advocate, and the whites had theirs. After a very long prosecution covering all of the sins of the world, the advocate for the defense rose to speak. He stipulated that all of the facts presented were not in dispute, and then asked a marvelous question: Given all that whites had done to others, why on earth did the other groups turn right around and behave in exactly the same way?

I posit to you that whoever does the sinning at a particular point in history, the sins are equivalent. The sin is still precisely the same, only the actors change. Perhaps all of us should spend more time considering this question, rather than tearing one another apart.

Panowie z Gamedesire, jestem oburzony jest Zaira bez numeru, bo byłem pierwszy wejść i wygrać zawsze mi powiedziano, a ja nie jestem już podane żetony dawno temu, to znaczy, że masz Zaira, że gra dla ciebie, przykro mi, że jesteś Polakiem tak jak ja i zrobić to do mnie nic więcej niż powiedzieć.

I realize that I can be an absolute handful at times, it’s just part of who I am.I wish I could tell you I was a simple person, but I’m anything but that. I’m a complex personality with a unique blend of qualities that may make your head spin sometimes.At first glance, people think I’m a strong person, but those who really understand and love me know I’m a deep feeling soul with a loving heart..and I’m weak when it comes to the people I care about.I know I’m not easy to understand and I appreciate my people that get that I’m worth the effort.I used to think I was an introvert, but as I learned to talk to people, I realized I’m a little bit of both..it all depends on my mood and who I’m with.There’s days when I feel like pulling my hair out and crying minutes before something hilarious makes me double over with side splitting laughter.That’s the beautiful disaster that is me- you never know which version you’ll get, and you may get both at the same time, so buckle up, buttercup..I’m always a heck of a ride.Some may say I’m challenging, but I just call it interesting.Anyone can be ordinary, average and routine, so I choose to keep things a bit on the spicy side..though I don’t do it that way on purpose.You’ll never really know what’s going through my mind, I’ve learned to disguise my emotions masterfully-I’ll often tell you that I don’t care when the truth is I care too much.I have the simple needs most people have- to love and be loved, to be understood and appreciated..I just happen to pursue those desires in extraordinary ways..With sass, pizzazz and a lot of sarcasm sometimes, too.I call that my bold, fun flavor- tasty to those that love me and revolting to the rest..But I realized a long time ago I would never be able to please everyone.So I stopped trying.Better to make myself happy, fill my soul with joy and love my life and my people with all my heart.If I can’t put my whole heart and soul into something or someone, I’ll do what’s best for me and step away.I know I’m awesome in all my flaws and I embrace each of my dents, imperfections and scars fully-They’ve made me who I am and I’ll never regret anything I’ve done or anywhere I’ve been.I’m a big bundle of emotions, happiness and personality and you’ll never forget me once we’ve met.Maybe you’ll love me, maybe not..But I’ll keep on dancing to my own beat, living in my own light and loving myself the best way I know how.I like who I am and I guess it’s up to you to decide if you do, too..I’ll keep on doing what I do best, regardless.Shining brightly

When we met, you knew what kind of person I was..I was clear about my intentions.I don’t play games nor tolerate players..I leave that amusement for those chasing shallow feelings and lackluster dreams.No, I told you that I needed more, I craved the truth and I deserved the best.If you’re not willing to step up and have a mature relationship, then now is the time to set the record straight.I’m not settling for being an option, and I’m never going to be your “maybe.”If you don’t know what you want or if you have to stop and think, then I’m not the one for you.I play for keeps and I wear my heart on my sleeve- anything less than soul stirring, heart sparking passion doesn’t interest me..I’ve kissed enough frogs to know that I’m holding out for the one who can make me feel like nothing I’ve ever known.Maybe I’m a dreamer, but I want the kisses that bring forth butterflies, the touch that gives me chills, the look that singes my soul.I don’t know if you’re up to the task and can handle my heat, but if you’re not willing to face the fire of my passion, then let’s just part ways now.I’m never going to chase you, beg for your attention or be anything less than a priority.I realize that you may think I’m a handful, too much or demanding, but I know my worth..that’s never changing.I’m showing you who I am and you’ll always know where you stand with me..So, I’m fiery, I’m strong willed and I’m one of a kind, and if you didn’t know that by now, start paying attention.I’m not waiting around for you to figure it out, think about things or play the field, love isn’t a competition and I’m not a prize for your possession.I’m real, I’m authentic and you’ll never meet another person like me.Maybe you’re not ready, maybe you’re working things out or just don’t know what you want..and I’m good with that, everyone has their own path..Just don’t expect me to be waiting for you at the end of the road, hoping you’ll let me love you.I know I built high walls around my heart and I don’t just let anyone in..But this is who I am and how I feel, take it or leave it.Are you stepping up to try to win my heart or walking away?I don’t need to be fixed or saved, I just want to be loved..just as I am.l

Barely the day started and... it's already six in the evening.
Barely arrived on Monday and it's already Friday.
... and the month is already over.
... and the year is almost over.
... and already 40, 50 or 60 years of our lives have passed.
... and we realize that we lost our parents, friends.
and we realize it's too late to go back...
So... Let's try, despite everything, to enjoy the remaining time...
Let's keep looking for activities that we like...
Let's put some color in our grey...
Let's smile at the little things in life that put balm in our hearts.
And despite everything, we must continue to enjoy with serenity this time we have left. Let's try to eliminate the afters...
I'm doing it after...
I'll say after...
I'll think about it after...
We leave everything for later like ′′ after ′′ is ours.
Because what we don't understand is that:
Afterwards, the coffee gets cold...
afterwards, priorities change...
Afterwards, the charm is broken...
afterwards, health passes...
Afterwards, the kids grow up...
Afterwards parents get old...
Afterwards, promises are forgotten...
afterwards, the day becomes the night...
afterwards life ends...
And then it's often too late....
So... Let's leave nothing for later...
Because still waiting see you later, we can lose the best moments,
the best experiences,
best friends,
the best family...
The day is today... The moment is now...We are no longer at the age where we can afford to postpone what needs to be done right away.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BjDebmqFRuc

I want to bounce something off you all. I do not think it is so much the color of someone's skin that is the cause of so much discord in this country. I think it is more the perspective that that causes the problem. I may have mentioned before I live in an area where there is nearly no problems with color. I think it is because most of the people in my neighborhood know how to be polite and respectful of each other. When we talk to each other we do it respectfully. Anyone is going to bristle if someone comes at them from out of no where screaming and yelling at them for something they did not even know was bothering them. Even though the guy I spoke to today about his music was not inclined to turn it down he was very polite as he told me he was not going to and why, but when I explained exactly why I wanted it cut back some and he realized I did live quite some distance from his house he did agree to cut it back a little. That is all it takes is a little compromising.
Before he realized how far away I lived he tried to give me money first he offered me a 20. I told him politely i did not want his money, then he offered a 100 and I told him again it is not about money it is about my health. I explained how the base effects my health and that no amount of money would fix that. Like I said in the end he did cut it back a bit. I told him it is not all the music, just the base. It was a beautiful day today and I was not trying to keep he and his friends from enjoying it, but I wanted to enjoy it too. I really think if more people would speak softer instead of yelling there would not be so much hate and violence in this world.
I did not used to understand that saying : Speak softly and carry a big stick before, but now I get it. You speak softly, because more can be achieved by calmly talking things out, but you carry the big stick in case you find someone who is not interested in talking and only wants to fight.

Daddies were Daddies and Mamas were saints

What preachers were preaching

You could take to the bank

Kids played outside

Up until it turned to dark

When the world turned slower

And you could smoke in a bar

Trucks took a beating

The working man too

You could turn on the six o' clock

And get the whole truth

A seat belt was a backup

For Mamas right arm

When the world turned slower

And you could smoke in a bar

My, oh my!

How times have changed

But man sometimes I miss them old days

They say we've come a long way

But I'd say it's a little bit too far

From when the world turned slower

And you could smoke in a bar

Neighbors came by and talked on the porch

We all said goodnight

And never locked the front door

Even downtown

You could still see the stars

When the world turned slower

And you could smoke in a bar

My, oh my!

How times have changed

But man sometimes I miss them old days

They say we've come a long way

But I'd say it's a little bit too far

From when the world turned slower

And you could smoke in a bar

A deal was a deal

When you shook a man's hand

When we saw the flag flying

We all gave a damn

My, oh my!

How times have changed

But man sometimes I miss them old days

They say we've come a long way

But I'd say it's a little bit too far

From when the world turned slower

And you could smoke in a bar

From when the world turned slower

And you could smoke in a bar

😊 Looking for friends to play games.