Sometimes I wonder if it is embeded in male dna to not hear what is
said to them but rather to hear what they want to hear. I was talking
to my b/f today. He said he needed a part for his mower. The parts
place was a long way from his house and his mom had already left to go
to a place beyond where he needed to get the part. I told him call the
place see if they got the part if they do pay for it with your credit
card then call your mom and ask her if she can swing by and pick it up
on her way home. Seems simple enought right? What he did was try
to call his mom and realized her phone was off he did not call the parts
place. When he told me what he did I said that is not what I told you
to do. I reminded him where his mom went her phone would be off for a
while. That is why I wanted him to call the parts place first to give
his mom time to finnish her erron and trun her phone back on. He used
the excuse we will have to go get it when she gets home. I then said
to him, You did not call and ask what time they close so if you go up
there when she gets home and they are closed I will be sure to tell her I
told you to call them and see what time they close. Yea I am mean
sometimes lol, but when I tell someone to do something in an order I
have a reason for that order, and I get annuyed when people do not
listen to reason.
I also wonder why people say they will do
things, and when something they think will be more fun comes along they
totally forget about what they had said they woudl do. If they are not
going to do what they say they will why say they will do it in the
first place? If you have not told me you would do something I am not
hurt, anoyed or upset if you do not do it. It is so much easier to
just say no i do not want to do that when you are asked then it is to
say you will then not do it, and no one gets hurt or disappointed if
you tell the truty. I respect people that tell me the actual truth not
just the truth (as they see it) even if it hurts more then someone that
lies to me thinking they are going to protect my feelings. Actually
the most hurt I ever got was by someone who thought he was trying not to
hurt me. It was a net friend and I had just sent him my pic. (some
of you know i am impathic ) When he opened the file I could feel his
dissapointment, I asked him what he thought I ALREADY KNEW WHAT HE
WAS FEELING he was dissapointed ( I am not really pretty) All i wanted
at that point was him to tell me the truth. He triedto hide his real
feelings and the longer it took me to get him to tell me what I already
knew the more it hurt that he had lied to me. I have found out over
the years even a well intentioned lie to protect someones feelings is
not a good lie. The truth is always better.
jane_and.the_dragon
joined:
Worry about your character, not your reputation. Your character is who you are, your reputation is who people think you are.
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