jane_and.the_dragon

 
joined: 2014-04-15
Worry about your character, not your reputation. Your character is who you are, your reputation is who people think you are. ht
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I HAVE BEEN THINKING ABOUT HAPPINESS LATELY

   For decades I have said everyone is entitled to their share of happiness in this world if they can find it.   Something happened a short time ago that has me wondering about something.   Is it wrong in your quest for your happiness to take away someone else's happiness to get what you want?   That would be hard enough to deal with if you were the one who lost their happiness so someone else could have theirs if both parties were strangers. EXAMPLE: The movie WHAT ABOUT BOB this couple had saved for years to buy a house near a lake, and just as they were about to get it someone else stepped in with more money took away their chance to own their dream house.   That was 2 strangers, but when someone you know and like takes away something you worked hard to get it is really hard to move past it to keep your friend.   It can be done however if the wronged person has a big forgiving heart.   The problem comes in when the person who lost their happy to a friend and then the friend rubbs it in their face.   I have not clue why people act like that, but they do.     EXAMPLE:   I have 2 friend I met on the net, and I liked them both a lot, and they both liked each other more then a lot.   I got both of them Christmas presents the first year we knew the second friend.   The second friend got me a present that year, but the first one did not get me anything NOT EVEN AND EMAIL CHRISTMAS CARD and those are free.   I did not mind her not buying me a present.   When I buy someone a present I do not do it to get them to buy me something I do it cause I want them to have it.    I will admit I was disappointed she did not even send me an e card, but even that did not make me mad.   What made me mad was for weeks after Christmas at least 4 times she told me and retold me what she had got for our other friend and her whole family for Christmas.   One of the things was a laptop computer.   Even that would not have made me mad IF she had only told me it ONE time, but after the 4th time I straight up told her.   Know what I do not appreciate you throwing it in my face what you got her and her family for Christmas when I got you a present and you could not even be bothered to send me an e card that would have been free.   She stopped after I laid it out to her, but as you can see I still have not forgotten that.   Could be because I just talked to them both the other night lol.  The friendship survived it as strong friendships can if both sides want it to be true.
     I still believe EVERYONE is entitled to do what makes them happy cause we only get 1 go round in this world.   I just think if your happy causes someone else to lose their happy you should be a bit more sensitive about it and not throw it in your friend's face so they have to think about it all the time.